users: dont restart systemd services on activation

i can see why this would be desired... but unless i plumb a way to selectively disable it, i'd prefer to disable it by default

TODO.md

@@ -1,6 +1,4 @@
 ## BUGS
-- sway & other services are restart when NixOS config changes
-  - probably want to just not restart any user services by default
 - nmcli and networkmanager_dmenu don't have the right perms to adjust networking details
   - i think the error is in my sandboxing of the NetworkManager service
 - `rmDbusServices` may break sandboxing

modules/users/systemd.nix

@@ -28,7 +28,7 @@ let
     # documentation,
     # depends,
     # dependencyOf,
-    partOf,
+    # partOf,
     command,
     cleanupCommand,
     startCommand,
@@ -43,6 +43,7 @@ let
       serviceConfig.User = userName;
       serviceConfig.Group = "users";
       serviceConfig.WorkingDirectory = "~";
+      serviceConfig.X-RestartIfChanged = lib.mkDefault false;  #< NixOS attribute, so we don't restart the DE on activation
 
       serviceConfig.ExecSearchPath = [
         "/etc/profiles/per-user/${userName}/bin"